My Medical School Long Distance Relationship ? Part 1 | The Med ...

This is the front part of a card my significant other sent to me ? it brightens my mood to see it on my nightstand every morning and evening.

The question of whether to bother with a romantic relationship while in medical school is a personal one ? although mounds of advice is doled out against dating your peers ? or even someone in the same medical school as you, or how long distance relationships are doomed to fail, the reality is that there are instances where these exact types of relationships have endured the test of medicine. Whether or not you should do it depends on your unique situation.

Here was my situation:

I was on 3 waitlists by spring of last year, when my significant other had to decide between staying in Michigan and moving out to California. At that point, I thought that a year off between finishing my degree and starting medical school was the most likely scenario so I encouraged him to do what was best for his career and take our relationship out of the equation. Of course, he opted for sunny California and I started looking into short-term opportunities out West.

Early in May, I received my first acceptance and it became clear that I was going to reside in Michigan. When we started to discuss where our relationship would go from there, I was in favor of going in separate directions ? I had tried long distance in the past and it was not an experience I wanted to relive. But he wouldn?t have it. He was adamant about giving it a fair chance ? after all, love knows no boundaries, right?

After discussing the terms of our relationship such as how often we will talk, see one another and when/how the distance will end, we came to an agreement. Because I had never been to the West Coast, I decided that we would say our goodbyes following an epic road trip across the country. Come August, we made it out to Los Angeles and I helped him settle in before taking a one-way flight back to Detroit.

When I returned home, I had about a week to prepare for the official start of medical school. There was really no time for thinking about my relationship when I was finally moving forward in my medical career!

The first couple weeks of my long distance relationship went rather swimmingly ? we talked every night over FaceTime and I was busy during the day doing what I loved. It seemed like a win-win situation. After about a month, I flew back to L.A. over Labor Day weekend and had a wonderful time. But when I returned from my trip, things felt a bit gloomier. Maybe it was the turning of the seasons and shortened daylight; or the stress of upcoming examinations; or everything combined. Regardless of the cause, it was like a switch flipped and I just couldn?t handle a long distance relationship anymore. I needed him to come back home.

More to come in Part 2!

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Source: http://www.medschoolinsight.com/1st-year-of-med-school/2012/08/22/my-medical-school-long-distance-relationship-part-1/

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